The LGBTQIA+ Thread

dyne 智優

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I go by Aoi/Kurt and am a demiromantic bisexual (my sexual attractions are based on sex, not gender; guys > gals). I am biologically male, but I don't really care about gender.
*still expecting straight allies to arrive*
 
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dyne 智優

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I'm sorta afraid to ask for an opinion regarding this here but here it goes **;;
So, rumour has it that this guy I was recently crushing on is gay. (in short lol)
My question is, if I were to actually date him , how open should I be regarding our relationship irl? Because I live in a sickly LGBTQIA+phobic country. (I once read that a gay couple died at a restaurant coz of this, but they immediately deleted this post a few days after idk why)
Also, as I said, those are only rumours. Should I even confess to him to begin with? We're pretty much acquaintances and I don't want to weird him out, f**k the mind outta his head nor ruin our acquaintanceship if the rumours weren't true ;-;
 

TDRloid

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I'm sorta afraid to ask for an opinion regarding this here but here it goes **;;
So, rumour has it that this guy I was recently crushing on is gay. (in short lol)
My question is, if I were to actually date him , how open should I be regarding our relationship irl? Because I live in a sickly LGBTQIA+phobic country. (I once read that a gay couple died at a restaurant coz of this, but they immediately deleted this post a few days after idk why)
Also, as I said, those are only rumours. Should I even confess to him to begin with? We're pretty much acquaintances and I don't want to weird him out, f**k the mind outta his head nor ruin our acquaintanceship if the rumours weren't true ;-;
I would say just hang out with them just a little longer so you know more about him. This way you might be able to gauge whether rumors are true (or maybe they'll even tell you they're gay) and at the same time you can determine if this is just a temporary crush or not. Once you get to a point where you can safely confide secrets to one another, you could tell them. Just be safe!
 

dyne 智優

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I would say just hang out with them just a little longer so you know more about him. This way you might be able to gauge whether rumors are true (or maybe they'll even tell you they're gay) and at the same time you can determine if this is just a temporary crush or not. Once you get to a point where you can safely confide secrets to one another, you could tell them. Just be safe!
Okie thank for the tip!
 

Shibaru 101

Ruko's Ruffians
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0w0 Idk about me but I usually have a crush on someone when we were close. So I guess I am demisexual panromantic? (or vice versa)
 

dezzydream

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Ayy, pansexual intersex here.
I sexually identify as female, but a Y chromosome has left me with hairy arms(that I REFUSE to shave) and a really dirty mind. So I normally hang out with the guys because they also like ecchi anime. As for pronouns, I prefer they/them, but she/her is fine with me.

I realized I was pansexual when I met a kid last year who identified with no gender. Oh my god did I fall in love with them. They didn't notice me for half the year ;-;.
 
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totally forgot this thread existed and i would like to say
without going into too much detail

sex totally is not my thing.

learned i am 546000% asexual, but panromantic

also genderneutral, but i don't care what pronouns you use to refer to me.
 
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Nohkara

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(how I didn't know about this thread until now????)

So, hi every nice body!

I am.... Let's say that I'm non binary (also less or more genderfluid too). I go with he/him pronouns but they/them is fine as well. :sing:

I like primarily boys but might like girl as well~~(?!?) •^•)

You can talk to me if you want~~~ òwó
 

dyne 智優

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Gender and sexuality is bootifully complicated af.
I'll just repeat what a few people have said in this thread:
Although this place is to be a safe haven for LGBTQIA+ UTAU users/fans, please bear in mind that non-LGBTQIA+ individuals are always welcome to leave a message here too, as long as they don't mean any harm.
 
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ExistenceReaper

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I forgot this existed then found my old post from back in February In my first post I said I didn't care whether people know or not, but after realizing just how bad this impacts my mental state, I'd prefer to say I don't want it to be the focal point of my life. Not sure how well that'll go though oh well
 
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Hazu パワ

Weeaboo yet not Weeaboo
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OMG I just realize thi after I posted my thread-

Im Hazuki(Kyameran is real name) I'm a Transgender Woman and I also happen to be bisexual~

I usually don't tell people until I get clocked but I'm trying to be more open about it.
 

Piia

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Hi everyone, I'm Piia (my username is close to my real name).
I'm a homoromantic asexual. I'm proud of it but still closeted to my family (and acquaintances)
Can I share my issue here?
I came out to my friends, which seemed like a big mistake. Now, none of them have been talking to me or just 'seen' my messages and not reply, especially since I've stopped going to church.
My family is a firm Christian one and sticks to EVERY principle in the Bible (especially the 'gays will be damned' one. They won't tolerate that). I love God and Jesus, but being ace is my identity I just can't stop it.
I try to act 'straight' in front of my mom, but sometimes I kinda slip, just like today haha
I've heard my dad say that he will send away any of his children that aren't straight, and never talk to them again.
My mom keeps on telling me that I'm gonna be married and that I must look for a decent man... But the idea of permanently being with a man disgusts and haunts me
with the physical trauma I've faced It's gone even worse.
Sometimes I just cry before I sleep or when I'm alone because I feel so pressured to keep on hiding... I'm tired of it.
Sorry I'm crying while typing this. I just wish that I could be somewhere where I won't feel judged and hurting this bad.
 

dezzydream

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Hi everyone, I'm Piia (my username is close to my real name).
I'm a homoromantic asexual. I'm proud of it but still closeted to my family (and acquaintances)
Can I share my issue here?
I came out to my friends, which seemed like a big mistake. Now, none of them have been talking to me or just 'seen' my messages and not reply, especially since I've stopped going to church.
My family is a firm Christian one and sticks to EVERY principle in the Bible (especially the 'gays will be damned' one. They won't tolerate that). I love God and Jesus, but being ace is my identity I just can't stop it.
I try to act 'straight' in front of my mom, but sometimes I kinda slip, just like today haha
I've heard my dad say that he will send away any of his children that aren't straight, and never talk to them again.
My mom keeps on telling me that I'm gonna be married and that I must look for a decent man... But the idea of permanently being with a man disgusts and haunts me
with the physical trauma I've faced It's gone even worse.
Sometimes I just cry before I sleep or when I'm alone because I feel so pressured to keep on hiding... I'm tired of it.
Sorry I'm crying while typing this. I just wish that I could be somewhere where I won't feel judged and hurting this bad.
Looks like we're in the same boat, my friend. My parents are VERY Christian, and I would get killed if I came out. I'm waiting until I've moved across the planet to tell them, and then they can't do anything about it. My family also has control issues. Everybody thinks they can control everybody else. It's sickening. My parents won't let me have a phone, and they're trying to connect it to teen pregnancy. I just want to keep in contact with all of my friends.
 

Piia

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Looks like we're in the same boat, my friend. My parents are VERY Christian, and I would get killed if I came out. I'm waiting until I've moved across the planet to tell them, and then they can't do anything about it. My family also has control issues. Everybody thinks they can control everybody else. It's sickening. My parents won't let me have a phone, and they're trying to connect it to teen pregnancy. I just want to keep in contact with all of my friends.
Awww *pats your back and hug you*
I love my parents and family, it's just that their intolerance with the LGBTQIA+ community makes me feel very bad about being myself.
Yea lol about the phone thing I feel you so much XD I currently have one (after like YEARS) because I now don't have anyone to talk to and that I don't need one anymore *facepalm*
 

Hazu パワ

Weeaboo yet not Weeaboo
Defender of Defoko
Hi everyone, I'm Piia (my username is close to my real name).
I'm a homoromantic asexual. I'm proud of it but still closeted to my family (and acquaintances)
Can I share my issue here?
I came out to my friends, which seemed like a big mistake. Now, none of them have been talking to me or just 'seen' my messages and not reply, especially since I've stopped going to church.
My family is a firm Christian one and sticks to EVERY principle in the Bible (especially the 'gays will be damned' one. They won't tolerate that). I love God and Jesus, but being ace is my identity I just can't stop it.
I try to act 'straight' in front of my mom, but sometimes I kinda slip, just like today haha
I've heard my dad say that he will send away any of his children that aren't straight, and never talk to them again.
My mom keeps on telling me that I'm gonna be married and that I must look for a decent man... But the idea of permanently being with a man disgusts and haunts me
with the physical trauma I've faced It's gone even worse.
Sometimes I just cry before I sleep or when I'm alone because I feel so pressured to keep on hiding... I'm tired of it.
Sorry I'm crying while typing this. I just wish that I could be somewhere where I won't feel judged and hurting this bad.
I say wait until you move out then rub in their face afterwards~ Simple but, If your parents want to let their views effect their love towards you then that's on them- Im pretty sure the "...will send away any of his children that aren't straight" sounds like a bluff. I hope you figure out though.
 

Piia

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I say wait until you move out then rub in their face afterwards~ Simple but, If your parents want to let their views effect their love towards you then that's on them- Im pretty sure the "...will send away any of his children that aren't straight" sounds like a bluff. I hope you figure out though.
Thank you for the advice ^-^It helps a lot :smile: I do hope it's just a bluff though; because my father is a really rough person... He'll do pretty much what he says, even worse sometimes. I'm glad I don't have to feel fearful about things here. :D
 

Miawerz

Ruko's Ruffians
Defender of Defoko
yo there! bi dude here ^^' [s=]tfw you came out to the internet first[/s]
nothing fancy... just attracted to both males and females *shrugs
I'd go with male pronouns... i'd find it weird if someone called me with "they" cause for me it sounds plural(?)
never had any relationships (cuz i'm not ready(?)/ilooklikeapotatorip)
there's multiple instances when i fell for a girl then to a guy (but not at the same time lel) and then the two end up having a relationship rip (tho they eventually breaks up lol)
never came out
(cuz my parent's are like "we'd support you no matter who you are" proceeds to say something offensive against lgbt in the media)