The LGBTQIA+ Thread

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  1. Leo

    Leo oh you know Global Mod Moderator Defender of Defoko

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    Welcome to Utaforum's LGBTQIA+ Thread!
    This thread is intended as a safe space for all LGBTQIA members of UF. This is a thread for discussion and support, and sharing experiences and help to other members is encouraged.

    Please keep in mind that this is a thread for utau USERS, not the UTAU themselves. Discussions about Ritsu's gender identity, or your UTAU's sexuality do not belong in this thread.

    If you disagree with the LGBTQIA movement, please refrain from posting. Any hate comments will not be tolerated.

    Rules for posting:
    1. This thread is for discussion! Hate comments are not allowed at all. And I do mean discussion, not arguing!
    2. Be open-minded when posting; do not judge gender identities or sexualities.
    3. Feel free to ask for advice or help with a situation! That's what this thread is here for!
    4. All Utaforum rules apply here.
    5. Anyone is allowed to post here, so long as you conform to these rules. You don't have to be LGBTQIA to post!
    6. Remember that UF is a PG13 forum, and while this thread does include discussions on sexuality, keep these discussions PG13.
    7. Any use of slurs is not allowed here. These include, but aren't limited to: she-male, tranny, it, ******/***, levee, queer, etc.
    If you think you have an issue that you don't feel comfortable talking about openly, feel free to PM someone for help! If you have an issue you think is too severe for us to help you with here, there are lots of different online resources you can utilize for help, such as:
    Feel free to introduce yourself and how you identify, ask for help on any situation, give advice, or just discuss aspects of living LGBTQIA in general.
     
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  3. Zurui

    Zurui Accidental Money Waster Defender of Defoko

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    Hello, I'm Randy!
    [*droaning* Hi, Randy.]
    Come on, guys, this isn't an AA meeting.

    Anyway, I am pansexual and gender-fluid. Pansexuality is basically liking anyone, regardless of gender. Pansexuals include non-binary genders as well!
    And gender fluidity. I always have a hard time with this one. I just throw this picture at people at people and home they get the message:
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    I am the actual definition of the word "apathy"

    But yeah, go ahead and use whatever pronoun you want. Him, they, she, xir, they're all fine!

    EDIT: I forgot to mention I'm panromantic as well. But that probably goes without saying. I dunno :orly:
     
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  4. na4a4a

    na4a4a Outwardly Opinionated and Harshly Critical Supporter Defender of Defoko

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    *walks in late to AA meeting*
    *puts hateful/hurtful comment here*

    jk//JK

    um...I'm asexual...I ...think? (I could be gay, I don't know...nor do I think so)
    -
    Also can be called "nonsexual", I pretty much lack an attraction to anyone in any sense... There is some overlap where it could be similar to being Bi- or Pan- , But I am personally "aromantic"...So...I'm the human equivalent to an earth worm (lol)

    I prefer to be called by what my physical gender states...him/male...but I won't mind others as long as no one I know is around (It would be embarrassing, talking about it is embarrassing...)
     
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  5. McCloud

    McCloud Loner Stoner Supporter Defender of Defoko

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    Um, hello guys! Um, I'm McCloud and as you could probably tell from my signature down there I'm actually...gay ...I'm terrible at drawing and um, anyways, glad to meet everyone? *flees* :cry:
     
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  6. VaNexuS

    VaNexuS The Interstellar NexuS of Super Novas Defender of Defoko

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    //QUIETLY HAS BEEN HYPERVENTILATING INSIDE-, Just breathes now though and posts--
    I feel uncomfortable stating to others what I am, how I see myself, and just making it clear of who I am.. I'll just state this, as it is me;
    I am VaNex(alias, but my real name is Sidney, tbh I don't mind sharing that. I just prefer to not be referred to by my name, even in person, I'd just prefer Sid.) and I am Pan(sexual/romantic). I was born a girl, I am pretty much aware and accepting of what my body is, but I do not feel comfortable being referred to just by how I look and what my physical body //is//. I see myself as a male, but I do get to those points where, I think, "Am I really a guy, or a confused girl who is in a horrible cycle of self denial..?" I honestly consider myself a guy, a male, I'm just not built or was born as I see myself, but I get iffy on if its just a mindset thing, or something I mixed up. Its hard to tell if its just something I over-think or mixed up. I honestly feel very uncomfortable saying anything about my preferred gender, so no one, except general people I talk to(online and within physical contact/rl )that it has been brought up with, really know. My mom somewhat knows, my brother kinda knows, but I don't feel they understand or get that I'm male. I only get so unsure because of the reactions I get from others when it comes up. ..I figure others' reactions shouldn't influence my own self reflection, but I do get uncertain and waver on things, which makes me doubt myself. So, I'd figure most of my uncertainty comes from my over thinking.. But I'd like to get to the point where I know myself and I'm able to keep it stable with others.. so I won't have to struggle with who I am, and how I see myself. I want to be certain of myself, not uncertain and confused as I am, but I'm not at that point yet... It's just weird for me to be referred to as a girl, when I don't see myself that way, I don't feel that way-.. Its just weird to say, I'm //aware// of all of it, I'm "accepting" of my physical body, but the bottom line is, I don't want to be //defined// by it... I guess that's the point I wanted to make... llOTL
    As for sexuality-- I'm pretty certain I'm pan. I literally will love anyone, regardless of anything--, >My only guidelines are that feelings are mutual, that there's enough connection to even tell this. In short, what attracts me is not limited to any shape or form, I just wish and hope for mutual understandings and a connection to go with it. Ya know, those sparks that make these things work-- //laughs, shot, coughs.. Aheh--

    I hope that this isn't too shitty or confusing of a post.. llOTL I honestly feel weird about these things, and its an awkward topic for me.. ; o ; So I hope its understandable.. > A > and not too mixed up... Which is why I post in the first place--. Any insight or thoughts would help clear things up for me.., I'd think, so.. < w >
    Thank you for reading if you did~ ; o ; //I feel weird saying that, too, but honestly, I'd appreciate anyone taking the time to read all this..
     
  7. Mako

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    Hi hi everybody. I'm Euphoria.exe/Euphy or you could just call me Tom or Tomi (yes, it's a guy's name here in Finland! >w<), I'm a closet gay in real life but openly gay on the internet. Weird. xD

    To be honest, even though I'm gay, I still have a fear of intimacy (or something like that). I just can't get myself into a relationship, because I get way too anxious and try to avoid the other person even though I don't want to. Then when they ask what am I doing, I can't get myself to explain about my fear for some reason. o3o
     
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  8. KaelemGaen

    KaelemGaen Momo's Minion

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    -Pokes his head in-
    Hi, I'm KaelemGaen online I prefer to go by one of my many pseudonyms unless I added the person on Facebook or other places where the real name shows up. So here call me Kael, or Kaelem. I'm a cisgender gay male (Did I use that term right, lots of time of tumblr.) Among other identities I also am part of the bear community (the gay subculture).
    ... not sure what else to put here at the moment.
     
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  9. Uchuu

    Uchuu Ritsu's Renegades Supporter Defender of Defoko

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    *drops in for boredom*
    Hello, I'm Uchuu and if you actually look at my dA or SC or have me on Skype you should probably know my name is Luke~ I'm in the same boat as Euphy to be honest o3o
     
  10. Zurui

    Zurui Accidental Money Waster Defender of Defoko

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    Euphy and Uchuu:

    I always get super motherly over this kind of thing, so please know I'm here for you both of you~! Anyway, have you ever thought about why you feel so anxious about being in a relationship?
     
  11. Uchuu

    Uchuu Ritsu's Renegades Supporter Defender of Defoko

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    I dunno, I'd probably be fine with something that started online because hell I'm way more approachable here than IRL but I guess it feels awkward? I'm useless |'D
     
  12. Yanderekishin

    Yanderekishin Momo's Minion

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    I'm Yanderekastel (or just Kastel). I'm openly gay at school and sorta online. Many people don't believe me at first since I don't really fit into the common stereotypes. I'm always here to help people if they have any problems as well.
     
  13. Cheezy Kim

    Cheezy Kim Ruko's Ruffians Defender of Defoko

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    Hi ;u; i'm Kimz/Miki/Alan ;u; <3 I'm openly gay and i feel like Euphy and Uchuu ;nn;

    dang i feel pretty uncomfortable with online relationships thingy
    i've never had a boyfriend cuz i dunno ;nnnn; i'm too scaredddd
     
  14. na4a4a

    na4a4a Outwardly Opinionated and Harshly Critical Supporter Defender of Defoko

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    It's awkward...but..hey!
    To me, it's better than telling people in real life *nervous laugh*...ohh...But yeah...
     
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  15. Zurui

    Zurui Accidental Money Waster Defender of Defoko

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    Is there any reason you're scared? Or, rather, a reason you're comfortable talking with in public?
     
  16. Cheezy Kim

    Cheezy Kim Ruko's Ruffians Defender of Defoko

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    "better than telling people in real life" it feels kinda the same
    but in the internet you can block them if they dunn like you )???
     
  17. na4a4a

    na4a4a Outwardly Opinionated and Harshly Critical Supporter Defender of Defoko

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    I hide on the internet myself.
    Don't let anyone from my personal lfe know. (I would havve to run if they found out)

    Yeah...You could block them..or say it isn't you if someone form your life finds this (not likely)
     
  18. Cheezy Kim

    Cheezy Kim Ruko's Ruffians Defender of Defoko

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    i dunno maby i'm too shy ;nnn;
    block is the solution )?
    in my family/school/fwends they all know i'm gay
     
  19. na4a4a

    na4a4a Outwardly Opinionated and Harshly Critical Supporter Defender of Defoko

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    This thread isn't just for the LGBTQIA+ crowd! C'mon, I was hoping to hear from more people... :-I

    Btw...I'm gonna say this.-
    I know it's awkward and sometimes downright difficult to talk about these things...but consider this like a little safe-space on the internet...you can talk about these things here and no one is gonna judge you. <:')
    (and if they do, the rest of the forum out numbers them...soooo >:D )
     
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  20. McCloud

    McCloud Loner Stoner Supporter Defender of Defoko

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    I don't think I could ever tell anyone in real life that I'm gay. I'm just too much of a coward...I don't really know how to explain it but...I kind of wish people knew who I really am, but at the same time I really don't want them to know? I don't know, I'm weird. :cry:
     
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  21. FluoroLime

    FluoroLime Ruko's Ruffians Defender of Defoko

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    Well, ok guys. I'm gonna say something.
    What if I, as a heterosexual female, dated someone who was physically male but identified as female? I'm not saying I have, but is that a homosexual relationship or a heterosexual relationship?
    On another note, I believe all the different sexualities are hard-wired into everyone who has them, but is that just in our minds? Like, maybe its our brains telling us who we're into. However, I'm sure our bodies wouldn't care either way. I'm not saying that sexuality can be changed. But, why is life that way?
    Is sexuality like the need to eat and sleep? Does it run deeper or shallower than that?
    I hope one day, we'll truly understand. So that way, people wouldn't get dissed because of their love interests.
    (sorry guys i didn't mean to be so deep its just that a lot of stuff came out.)
     
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